tj in malawi

Saturday, October 21, 2006

The Chadstone of Lilongwe

Today I went shopping at the Old town markets. I love it! I now have beans, potatoes, tomatoes, pineapple, a pair of shoes, a light bulb and some material that the tailor is making into a bag for me. All for 890 kwacha (under $10dollars)

When walking in the market or down the street, it’s nearly impossible to go unnoticed.
People you don’t even know stop to ask you where you are going. I can’t walk anywhere without everyone looking at me, pointing, waving and wanting to talk. I stand out. Today I was called mama, sister, auntie, azungu, friend… and a lovely gentleman let me in front of him in a line while saying “ladies are always first…unless of course if there’s a lion around” But the classic comment for today was a young man stopping me to ask if I was Madonna… hehe…

Celebration of New Babies

My friend and work colleague Patience and his wife Shupikera have just had their first little baby boy Armani. They are both well which is great news. I have really enjoyed being a part of the celebrations, the anticipation, the nervousness and the excitement. Patience sent me a text message soon after to tell me I was Auntie Tamara to my first little Malawian baby boy. Tomorrow I have been invited to join them to take some photos of their new family, so I’m pretty excited.

Which also made me think alot about all the babies being born at home…. So sad to be missing out on celebrating with you, and sharing in watching them grow!!

Just a few days before I left:
Pete & Bec had their third baby girl Elouise,
Rod & Leonie had their first baby girl Emily
And while away,
Wayne & Bec their second little boy
Annie & Chatha had a little girl Tess
Anne & Hamish had a little girl Hannah
Jacqui and Nathan their third girl Isabelle

My biggest apologies if I have missed anyone!

So according to my calculations, If we keep going at the same rate, at the very least, there could be another 48 babies born before I get back home… So whose it gonna be?

Sunday, October 15, 2006

Crisis Nursery

overwhelmed

today I had my first visit to the crisis nursery, and I will never forget it.

The crisis nursery is a house in Lilongwe that cares for babies up to about 2 years of age, and as the name suggests, its an emergency care service. At any one time there are 30 babies, three bedrooms, a kitchen and a variety of different living rooms and play rooms. 5 staff at any one time, which means each worker is caring for 6 children at once.
Anyone who has children would know what this would mean, even one child means constant feeding, nappy changing, nursing, washing etc. but 6 children to care for? with another 30 babies around, all crying at once when they are hungry?? It doesn’t take much to imagine the scene. It still didn’t prepare me.

There was an 8 day old baby whose mother died in child birth, no other family, numerous orphaned babies, severely malnourished children whose families have tried for months after a mother has died to care for them, but finally given up. Some babies will go home to relatives when strong enough, many will wait for placement somewhere. Some of these children come to our village.

I went for a 10 minute visit. About 2 hours later we left. After feeding baby after baby, holding them, a few to many tears, playing with them and changing them, i finally left.

It's still a bit of a new emotion to describe

Turkey, Madonna & Snakes

On Friday Kathy (the project manager of the SOS medical centre where I work) asked if I wanted to stay with them for the weekend, which I would never decline as I am always spoilt every time I come here. The Bowlers are the Canadian missionary couple that I spent my birthday weekend with some weeks ago.We went out for dinner twice, Indian for my birthday and then Ethiopian for Kathy’s birthday the day after mine. They have two beautiful girls, amy who is 7 and Alisa who is 4 (adopted at 18months of age from here in Malawi). Since then I have also been here a few nights when Steve has been out of the country, as Kathy and the girls have enjoyed the company at home. Tonight was a special one, they were celebrating Canadian thanksgiving (which is about a month earlier than the American one). It was actually on Monday night, but they had to postpone their celebrations as Steve was busy taking Madonna around the country!!!

So we had a massive thanksgiving dinner. When we arrived home after work I was overwhelmed by the beautiful Christmas day smells!! There was a giant turkey in the oven (and I mean giant) we had asparagus, beautiful salads, potatoe, turkey, cherry pop soda, pear and strawberry pie for dessert. We then played cards until late into the night. I learnt a new game called wizard, it’s a variation of 500 and heaps better. Over dinner and cards we had lots of conversations about international donors for aid organizations, talked about Madonna and her time here in Malawi, and the rumours of her Malawian adoption. (more on that later though!)

Then the next morning i awoke to find two snakes in the toilet bowl of my room. So that was rather eventful. They were tiny tiny ones.... but they are still snakes in a place that i wasn't very happy about!!

what is unseen

Long chat with a dear friend who has lost her husband, cousin and uncle all in the last three months. She gave me a bible verse which summarises her response to suffering. no explanation needed. Be encouraged and refrehsed, as i was, by her heart in hard times.

2 Corinthians 4: 16-18

Therefore do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieveing for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is tomporary, but what is unseen is eternal.

Cordial & Keys

last night I woke up really thirsty at about 3am. I went to the fridge and skulled what seemed like heaps of water, I certainly was asleep I think, as i didn’t discover quickly enough that I had skulled orange sobo which is a bit like cordial. Eek!

Today I was 20 minutes late for work. I had to ring the reception desk to tell them why, I was locked inside my house and I just couldn’t get out. I had completely lost the keys and turned the house upside down looking for them. I eventually found them in the fridge.
Wonder if I did that in my sleep?!

The 12 hour journey for a 20 minute meeting

My day trip to Mua, which was my biggest traveling adventure so far, started at the front gate of SOS at 5:50am, Even at that time of the morning I could tell the day was going to be a hot one, So I was loaded up with all the water & suncream I could carry. October & November are the hottest here in Malawi, and every day I can feel it getting hotter and more humid as the rains approach, but it has been weeks and weeks since I have heard an actual temperature. The walk to the minibus was beautiful, I love the morning light, it changes every 15 minutes or so, there’s a beautiful soft white haze which sits in the still air in the early hours, and it slowly becomes a more pinky haze as the wind picks up and mixes the dust with the smoke from everyones fires the night before. The breeze only stays cool for a while though. I’ve decided really hot weather is when you’re forced to have a cold shower in the morning, but it doesn’t even come close to taking your breath away.

The bus ride (one of 6 to reach our destination for the day) was a painful one, it was either a really low roof or I had grown a few inches in my sleep, but every bump, of which there are many between my house and town, resulted in my head connecting rather abruptly with the roof. Any cushioning remaining on the seats was little protection from the bounce back down into the seat, especially as I was sitting on a join…. So a bruised head and backside was certainly the order of the day.

Our reason for traveling was to visit Mua school for the deaf. My traveling companion Joyce works at the SOS primary school as a special education teacher for the hearing impaired class. I was excited about spending the day with Joyce. Travelling is a great time to get to know people, whether its walking somewhere, or in a bus, if you know the person or not, it really makes no difference. I have learnt so far that showing interest, enthusiasm and not being afraid to ask questions is a great way to chat, and build great friendships. I have decided that Malawians would be the kind of people who wouldn’t mind at all if you asked them questions all the way through a movie. Both friendship & communication are highly valued. So especially on bus rides I always learn new things… Today I heard that the day after a funeral, it is not uncommon for thieves to dig up the grave, remove the body and steal the coffin. Such is the need for coffins around here, and the poverty which limits their purchase!! Families who can afford it will have cement poured over the coffin after the funeral to try and reduce this unfortunate event. You will always be aware if a funeral is underway somewhere, the women will all be sitting together, as will the men. A row of leaves will mark the start and finish of the mourning area, it is polite to remain silent while walking between them.

So it was around 6:30 when we reached town to find a bus to Salima. My water was getting low already. We found ourselves a bus that was reasonably full and therefore not too far off leaving, this time our wait was only about 40 minutes before departure. You don’t ever get bored while waiting at a bus station though, you can nearly do all of your shopping right from your seat, the experience really does bring a whole new meaning to window shopping. Vendors walk up and down the bus windows holding all sorts of things up hoping you will buy. Depending on your location the items for sale will vary. From the main bus station you can purchase cold drinks, toothbrushes, watches, bubble gum, cakes, bread, apples, biscuits, hankies, face washers, newspapers, music, cds, jewelry, radio’s, socks, and clothes. While along the roads in the middle of nowhere, market food is available from the windows, all sorts of fruit and veggies (usually tomatoes, cabbage, onions and banana’s), if in a small town fast food will be available, this will include mandasi (deep fried donuty sort of things) very very yummy!!, roasted chimanga (corn), roasted ground nuts, or boiled eggs & salt. It’s like a bulk drive thru…. they certainly beat macdonalds, sometimes a large number of purchases can be made in a frighteningly quick time! Its so much fun!

We arrived in salima about 90 minutes after leaving Lilongwe. Our driver today was a lead foot. It’s a little unsetteling at times when theire is a group prayer for safe arrival at your destination before leaving the bus station… sadly minibus accidents are far too common. So your continued prayers for my safe travels would be greatly appreciated!
Salima is a town east of Lilongwe toward the lakeshore. Another 20 minute drive by matola (back of a truck) will bring you to senga bay for a swim in the beautiful lake. But today we were headed further south. The buses are few to Mua, so we didn’t have a choice of buses today, the one that was their was our only option. It was pretty empty so far, except for a giant basket of millions of miniature fish, hundreds of flies and a terrible smell. But aside from walking the 80km, we had no other option. We explored the streets a little for more cold drinks and then finally had to board the fishy fly filled bus to reserve ourselves a seat. I had to breath through my nose to reduce the open space available for adventurous flies, and any mouth open meant you could taste the intensity of the smell. The man sitting next to me really didn’t smell sensational either, I think largely due to the fact his arm pit was ridiculously close to my face as he had his arm raised to the roof both for increasing squashing space in our row and I think he was suffering the same head and roof issues I was on my first bus trip earlier that morning. So there was a plethora of strange odours! All the while I couldn’t help but smile. It was turning out to be my favourite day so far!! At one point I remember being so proud of myself thinking my positive thought about the situation had turned the terrible smell into a appetizing odour o fresholy cooked fish and chips on a hot summers day…. But it really was wishifulthinking as I turned to see the lady next to me had pulled out a packet of cold fish and chips so greezy and soggy it was surely from the day before. So once she had eaten that, the smell returned to its usual horrible stench. I could only but laugh at our next stop, I could hardly see how another person could fit, but the conducter managed to squeeze in one lady, her two children and the three live chickens they were carrying. One of the chickens surely knew its fate, as it was trying its very best to have a good last supper – my right knee - so the remainder of the bus trip certainly was a test of concentration, avoiding flies in the mouth, and dodging the psychotic & hungry chicken.

So another crazy bus ride later we arrived in Mua at 10:15am to commence our walk to the deaf school. Wow it was hot! We walked down a long dusty road, goats and chickens all around us, we passed a little village maize mill, two bore holes, many kids staring at the azungu walking by and we finally arrived. Joyce is very passionate about her job and advocates for her kids in a very big way…which was the main reason for our visit to mua. Evey year the school has an intake of only 10 children from the central region of Malawi. And the principal is often reluctant to give more than about 1 child from SOS a place, saying that it would be favourtism and not allow opportunities for others to have access to the schools, despite the fact that we are the major referral centre for the central region, but anyway… so we went armed with a list of 14 children from the school and 5 from the medical centre ( who are currently not even enrolled in school) and this was our prioritized list!!! Apparently in the past whenever they have sent the list, only a few have been offered an assessment interview. The aim for the day was to go in person and argue each of their cases in the hope that all of the children would be offered an interview. So in the end it was a 12 hour journey for a 20 minute meeting …BUT we had success, we left with letters for all 19 of our children. Unfortunately only about 4 or 5 will be accepted in next years intake (which is better than the previous years) but atleast they all have the opportunity to sit the assessment. So it was a worthwhile journey! After our short meeting, we were given a tour of the school, which was amazing. there are 148 children enrolled, it is a boarding school and they range from about 4years of age to18 or 19. They have a very small number of teachers!!! We were given a tour of the school, the boarding houses and each class. We were greated enthusiastically by the children who swarmed around us. It was the most amazing community of children, up until only about 2 years ago, teaching sign language in Malawi was taboo… there is a very long story associated with that… but basically those who did the original training of the special ed teachers didn’t believe in sign language, anyway that culture is slowly changing….THANK GOODNESS… but its obvious that despite any of the rules, the kids have been developing their own sign language to speak, which was certainly obvious at our visit, but the problem here is that each school now has a different form of sign language. Things are moving ahead, and a Malawian sign language book is being developed, which is fantastic!

It didn’t seem like long after we arrived that we were saying our farewells. I suggested we walk through the mua mission on our way back to the main road so I could see the infamous mua mission and hoped to run into Gary & Sue who were volunteers that arrived in Malawi the same time as I did. The Deaf school sits at the bottom of the hills, while the mission sits in the hills themselves. Mua mission was built in 1902, and which now houses a beautiful little community on the top of a beautiful hilly area. There is accommodation, a little hospital, schools, a museam and carving training school. It is home to a lot of culture and history of the chewa people, so will certainly be worth a return visit. The horrible hot walk up the hill was breathtakingy beautiful. An amazing view up into the distant dedza mountains, with mud brick straw roofed huts all set around a windy road leading up to the top of the hills with a dry riverbed below, I can just imagine after rainy season the waterfalls and swimming holes would be awesome!

We needed to get back to the main road so we could catch a bus home in time to arrive before dark, but we were totally exhausted, and extremely thirsty. I had no reception on my phone, and no idea how to find them, but there is often so few white people around, I figured we shouldn’t have to much trouble, and sure enough we had success. It was great to see them, and alough our visit was very short they gave us cold water to drink and some lunch which was fantastic. It was lovely to see them and their house, although most of their household items were outside while they attempted fumigating against some nasty bed bugs which had obviously been cuasing them some troubles as both were covered in bites.
It was a nasty walk back to the main road, the heat was intense, and it looked like miles before we would reach it. although I had skulled about 5 glasses of water, in no time I felt just as parched as before. Altouhg we passed a few little market huts along the way, none had electricity, therefore none had cold drinks. Just as I was walking down the big hill toward the road, my phone started ringing and I had the pleasure of a quick chat with mum, which was rather bizarre, I was in the middle of no where, so a little amazed that she could get through. I certainly was the centre of attention, after I got off the phone I noticed a large group of girls had gathered along the road with us, just silently walking along behind us, all fascinated by who and what they saw… not sure what fascinated them more, if it was the strange white girl or the muppets theme song my phone had played.

We attempted hitch hiking, with no success, but finally a minibus arrived. Each stop required someone sitting further back than us to move, so we got in and out of the bus many times, the final spot was awesome as I was right next to the window. There was a little girl with her mum who become rather confused each time we moved, as she spent most of the trip staring at me. After each time we moved she would ask her mum where I was. Everyone in the bus giggled each time this happened. She finally just came and sat with me.

Back in town I searched for more water, by this time of the day it wasn’t as easy, most people were sold out, or it was warm. But I persisted. Joyce was off at the market buying fish to take home so I took a stroll down the street, I found an icecream shop, a makeshift cinema (which was a little shack housing a TV) and a private toilet with no running water or toilet paper and had to pay 100kwacha for the priveledge, so I declined and went back to the icecream shop and begged for their toilet! I was nearly run over by a bicycle taxi and found a yummy mango at the market, so it was a great little adventure. I met Joyce back at the bus just after 2pm, as I approached I couldn’t believe how many people were carrying bundles of wet gooey fish, knowing I would be likely to spend the next 2 hour bus trip with them I was a little worried, but what I didn’t realize, they do have a storage facility…. each person tied the fish to the windscreen wipers of the minibus, having seen that I watched out for more buses, and sure enough, every bus heading back to Lilongwe had multiple bundles of fish hanging at the front of the bus from the windscreen wipers. Rather amusing.

It really was hot. The conversation on the way back in the bus made me realize it wasn’;t just me, everyone felt it, seemed that today was our hottest yet this season.
The first half of the bus trip was great fun, I discovered two of my new favourite feelings.You know like, walking on grass in bare feet, or smelling the air after it has just started raining on a hot day, or the smell of freshly cooked bread?

Well these are my new favourites - skulling cold water when your so thirsty you feel like someone has been holding a hairdryer into your mouth, and when the minibus starts moving again after sitting still for a few moments in the scorching heat, and the breeze feels like a freezer has been opened on you …its funny because all of them are after something bad has happened and the contrast is whats so awesome. you have to be so hot and parched you think you want to die, or sitting cramped between people with the sweat forming so quickly you think someone has been pouring a bottle of water on you…but then…. The relief from them both is just awesome. you are the happiest person in the world, and you think that life just couldn’t get any better than that.

But the second half of the trip was a real struggle. A mixture of heat exhaustion, dehydration and maybe some trouble with a leaking exhaust on the bus I found myself falling asleep and getting rather car sick. So the last bit was a daze. But I managed to get off that bus in town, board another oneto my home, and then walk all the way back to my little house via joyces house to help her carry all of her purchases from the days window shopping. I was in the biggest daze when I finally stepped inside the SOS gates just as the sun was setting, now 12 hours since I had left. The guard offered to walk me to my house, I can’t remember answering him. I went inside and sat on the shower floor for ages letting the water wash away the heat from the day. I had water and water and water and water for dinner. I was never more pleased than today that the water was on.

I then went straight to bed. What a great day! 12 hours from start to finish, 6 minibus rides, 20 minute meeting at our destination. And I later heard it reached 42 degrees in Mua that day.

The hungry feeling

I had an experience a few weeks ago that I wasn’t very keen to share with people, but I have decided that it is an important part of my experience here so far. I wasn't very well, just had the flu in my third week, anyway, i went a bit hungry.

Most of it was due to my own disorganization and lack of planning, but its so easy to be used to jumping in the car and going to the local supermarket if you run out of food, but there is no such luxury here. So im a little ashamed to be sharing this story, as it really was my own fault, but it really was a big moment for me in my time here so far. I was really hungry and going to sleep hungry is really really ordinary! And it only happened to me for a few nights in a row. and i knew that in a few days i would be alright again, because i could get food. but there are so many people who can't. that feeling may be a forever feeling. i was really overwhelmed by the experience.

We take food and water for granted in a very big way at home!!!!

Domesticated TJ

Call me the tailor, gardner, cook, electrician, & plumber

I have made a veggie patch out the back ( with help from some of the boys in the village), made new curtains for my kitchen with some pins (thanks june for the sewing kit!!), im creating all sorts of weird and wonderful meals – lots of them failures the first time around, but trial and error is a great way to figure it out!, I have fixed light bulbs that have a mind of their own, patched up a leaky pipe and learnt how to cut the grass on my back lawn with a big giant knife.

Woohoo!

Random interesting things i've learnt

1. Love is in the hands here. Hugs are rare. But a handshake can show the level of friendship or love. If you hold onto the handshake for a long time, this means you are close to the person, and are showing your sign of respect, friendship and love.

2. Public displays of affection in any type of relationahip beyond friendship just don’t happen.

3. Two guys walking down the street holding hands is very normal (and they are just friends)

4. Homosexuality and abortions are illegal in Malawi

5. Up until 7 years ago it was against the law for women to wear trousers – this has well and truly gone now.

6. There really isn’t any such thing as personal space here.

7. Malaria is the biggest killer in Malawi, Aids the second (Malawi has just been declared the worst figures on aids, and death rate in Africa). In lilongwe 1 in 5 people are HIV positive.

8. There are over 1 million orphans in Malawi alone

9. The average life expectancy is 44

10. Average monthly wage (for those that are priveledged enough to actually be employed is 1500 kwacha – the equivalent of $15 per month)

11. The Kwacha is worth a very small amount, with the largest note being only the equivalent of our $5 dollars, the smallest coin is a 1 tambala which is 1 hundreth of a a cent (its useless)

12. Aprox 80% of the population profess Christianity, 20% are muslims.

13. On Fridays the streets are always full of people with disabilities who line the streets begging. Why Fridays? Muslims are required to give to the disabled on Fridays – literally that’s what it says in the Koran…. Why it is not everyday I wouldn’t know. But then again, I wonder if people of other faiths would actually give as much without such specific rules?? I wonder!!?! The biggest concern is of course that anyone who employs someone can rarely get them to work on a Friday, as it is far more profitable to go begging on Fridays than actually work.

14. There is a village near nkamenia that is currently having a very high number of murders, mainly due to illegal sale of body parts. Mutilated bodies are being found, as people are being killed for their eyes, hearts, hands, breasts, penis, etc. you can purchase all sorts of random body parts on the black market. Havn’t yet figured out if it’s a whaky form of plastic surgery, or for more medical purposes. Anyway…it clearly doesn’t work, and its also pretty horrific as people are being killed very unecassarily. This doesn’t put me in any danger… two reasons… they don’t want white peoples body parts, and statistically you are at a higher risk of being murdered in Australia than in Malawi.

15. It is not uncommon to see people eating directly out of rubbish bins.

16. Boab trees, it is believed that God was angry one day, he picked up all the trees, turned them upside down and shoved them back in the ground again. Cream of Tartar is made from sap from Boab trees. They eat the sap stuff as a snack, it looks a little like honey comb...BUT DEFINATELY DOESN"T TASTE LIKE IT

17. The majority of houses are made from home made bricks, the roofs are made from straw. This doesn’t stop the rain, and houses a large number of breeding mozzies.

18. There are few road signs. Tin ones would be stolen for people to make roofs for their houses, and wooden ones would be burnt for fuel to cook.

19. Eating true Malawian style does not include any cutlery

20. Telling the truth is not common place here. They are the biggest form of people pleasers, survival of the fittest I guess. Especially for orphans.

21. The staple food here is nsima, which is maize flour cooked in water until it makes a thick paste which looks a bit like mashed potato…but certainly doesn’t taste the same. They eat with their hands here, using the nsima rolled into balls to soak up whatever is accompanying it, either veggies (which is actually just cooked leaves and cabbage) or beans and tomatoes, or meat (which you want to stay right away from cos they eat the whole animal of whatever they eat… like chicken necks, heads, feet and gizzards…. Oh quick question… who knows what aussie staple food is? Asian – rice?, Indian – curries?, Italian – pasta? And what about us?? Meat and three veggies? BBQ? Pavlova? Vegemite? Anyway, it’s a question I get asked a lot.

22. Maize is the biggest farming export, in addition to tea in the south and coffee in the north.

23. A 12 seater minibus usually holds 26+


24. Matola is the back of a ute, or truck. This can hold as many as can squeeze in

25. Its not uncommon for a wedding to start at 6:30 am and go all day

26. Life starts much earlier here. Better to get more done before the heat of the day really hits. Once the sun goes down most people are at home. 8:00am is a giant sleep in for me now.

27. Hippo’s eat people (and they kill more people world wide than crocodiles do)

28. Mozzie nets keep mozzies out, but they also keep them in!

29. There are only so many ways you can cook an egg.

30. Running water is really really nice


31. With some people you have to say no to walking with them along the street, as they sneakily pretend they are showing you where to go, then request money for being your guide.

33. Female circumcision does still happen in some remote communities.

34. From a list of teachers printed in 2001 their were a total of 1,700 teeachers in Malawi, that same list is now at 900, all the others from that list have died since then.

35. Misconceptions about HIV aids – some people believe that condoms cause HIV aids, and horrifically, the rate of child molestation and insest is frighteningly high, sadly because some people believe that having sex with a “pure” baby will cure Aids.

36. Someone is away on leave nearly 2-3 times a week from our medical centre to attend a funeral.

37. Three children peed on the floor in our therapy room today

38. oops i missed 32

39. Fast food in Malawi includes the following

o Mandasi
o Roasted corn
o Rats on a stick
o Boiled eggs – they carry trays of eggs with a packet of salt for seasoning


40. The chitenji for all occasions - this is a piece of material. A chitenji is used for everything, it is a skirt, a dress, a suit, a shawl, a hat, a pad on your head to carry heavy things, sanitarty products and nappies, it is a tissue, a face washer, a dishcloth, a blanket, a bed sheet, a mop, a towel, a rug, a sling to carry babies with, a bag to wrap everything in and then carry on your head, an umbrella, it is used for everything, and not necessarily one for each job, but sometimes the same one would be used for each separate purpose.

Dont just feel at home, BE at home!

I heard this statement at a church i visited on sunday, and it really made me think.
The guy welcomed all visitors by saying "feelings often deceive us my friends, so don't just FEEL at home, BE at home."

In Australia there is no way i would have met as many people as i have in malawi in such a short time, and certainly not from such a large variety of different circles. I wanted to feel at home, and as the statement above suggests, i have learnt that this involves a very proactive approach.

It all started the night i made myself a banana cake. It was in my second week here i think. I had no recipe for the cake, so it was a bit of guess work. it came out of the oven and i suddenly felt rather sad... i had a whole cake to myself, and no one to share it with. so a few moments of sadness later and i put the cake on a plate took a knife and went outside with a hot freshly cooked banana cake on a mission to find someone to share it with. It was the best fun! how often do we do that at home?? i have to be honest, i can't even tell you the names of my neighbours in ballarat... i wave to them all the time, but their names? no idea! i was so convicted...and so excited! The house i chose was my friend Wheka, she had visitors, so we all polished off the cake (which turned out very nicely... but i have not been able to repeat it, last time i think i forgot something vital as it tasted terrible) anyway, it made me realise i just had to get out there and create my community. and so i did.

Some of the people i have met:

I met Hazel at imigration while waiting in a line for hours, she has since taken on the role of being a social coordinator for me, she has introduced me to a variety of different people and rings me regularly to see how im going.

I met Nora at the bus stop one day, she is taking me to a volunteer teenage aids support program with partners in hope in a few weeks.

I had dinner on Wednesday night with a Texan couple. Sarah grew up in Nigeria where her parents were missionaries, her husband john is Indian, they both went to college in Texas, where they met and married and are now spending 2 years here in Malawi. They picked me up, cooked me an awesome meal, sent me home with left overs enough to not have to cook a few meals and then dropped me home again!

I had dinner on Thursday night with a Malawian born expat doctor who has lived in the uk for the last 5 years, a Scottish guy who has just taken over managing his own restaurant from his parents, a dutch guy who spent more than 15 years living in Malawi, who has just returned from living in Perth studying environmental sciences and development, now working with total land care, an NGO in Malawi, along with a Canadian girl who is here for two years also working at total land care.

I spent one weekend away with a girl named lisa (another AVI volunteer) we explored senga bay and while walking along the beach i ran into my friend Lucy. so even malawi is a small world.

.......Do you know what it has involved. Being willing to just put yourself out there and take risks. I think there is a freedom in the situation I am in. you see I have no choice, its either leap out of your comfort zone, or sit at home and wallow in your sorrows. I had a few days of that early on, and there is nothing good about it. Except to give you a mighty big kick up the backside and start thinking with some perspective, some vision, and a grand dose of positive thinking.

Im amazed at the different people I have been meeting, absolutely amazed!!
I am also thankful that the majority of people in my circle of new friends are locals, as it often happens that expats/volunteers/missionaries/other mzungus can tend to mix with their own groups way to much! so i am pretty excited about the variety of friendships that i have made.

There is such a variety of people here in the international community. Very rich expats who have moved to Malawi to make their millions, expats who have lived in zimbabwe all their lives and moved to malawi since the unrest, Missionaries from UK, US, Norway, Canada & Sweden. Aid and development workers from all over the world on short and long term contracts. Volunteers from all over the world & Tourists from all over the world...and many more groups of people. And everyone has different personalities, different motives for being here, different values in life, different opinions on life, politics, religion, development, aid, business, relationships, judgements & different upbringings.

As you can imagine the conversations have been many and varied, I feel like a giant sponge. I am developing new opinions and concpets, being challenged in previous thoughts and ideas, and my own convictions and visions have been confirmed and strengthened.

been so long

I knew it had been such a long time since i had sent an update, but i really didn't think it had been a whole month, so im a little stunned today when i saw the date of my last one! I have missed updating you all, but it has not been without trying i can assure you! so i will apologise in advance for the bombarding updates you will see here today, as I have many, not sure if they will be in order, but we'll see how we go!

Its a really strange thought for me that i have been here for 2 months! I have moments of being pleasantly stunned that im actually living in africa, then other moments when i completly forget that i am. Everything seems so normal now, in a completely different than normal way... if that makes any sense at all. i notice myself doing things that seemed so foreign a few weeks ago that don't even cause me to think twice now, and i think thats a great thing.

How do you describe Malawi?

I love meeting & chatting with new people and hearing their experiences. Its a bit like the "people watching" fun where you wonder who they are, what they are doing here, what their story is... its fun like that at airports, when you know there is always a story behind every person. Well anyway, its a bit like that, but even better as you get to find out all of the stories... Today I chatted with Emma (UK chick who came on a holiday 15 years ago and has never left) who described her time in Malawi as follows…. She was saying that there's something about Africa for her that you just can't describe, something that touches your heart and no explanations or stories can really paint the picture that an experience of your own can ever match! You can describe the scenary, the people, their lovely smiles, the living conditions, the landscape, the wild animals, the giant red Africa sun setting over a dusty land, but how do you describe what it does to you, how the people are, how it makes you feel, how it lifts your spirits, refreshes you, challenges you, pisses you off (quote!), inspires and motivates you, and breaks your heart all at the same time. In her 15 years of traveling back and forth she said the only people who really understand it, or really understand her, are those who have seen it for themselves. Interesting thoughts.